It is during this time of year that I usually begin to reflect on the year itself, and how I wish to enter the next new cycle. There is always something that marks my experience, something that greatly influences what I hope to manifest as the Earth takes another spin around the Sun. But 2018 has been quite unique…
“Nothing is more important than our relationship to the truth. It might temporarily demolish us. It might rip from us the false comfort of our delusions. It might make us reframe every aspect of our lives. But it will never, ever hold us from our purpose; from a life lived with depth, meaning, and incredible magic. It will knock us off the pedestals we’ve been unfairly placed upon, but it will never let us down.” ~Chani Nicholas
"Sweep in front of your own door." ~German proverb
I witnessed a breakthrough with a client last week, who realized how capable she was of successfully pursuing her own dreams to open a vegan restaurant, without leaning too heavily on the counsel of supposed mentors. I met with another client last week, who vented frustrations around the continual shock and surprise she would receive in response to her decision to leave a high paying corporate job, and become a passionate nutritionist instead. Another client last week, who lives a curiosity driven life and has several purposes, shared feelings of isolation because she did not fit a certain mold. And a fourth client was simply trying to “live and let live,” as she said in her own words, without so many forced expectations.
"Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you." Marianne Williamson
How often do you reflect on what you wish to cultivate in your life, clear on the decisions that need to be made, and the changes that need to occur? Do you ever pause to consider all the possibilities? Or do you reject your dreams, writing them off until they are hidden from view? I would argue that the majority of people, myself included, block abundance in life. Most times, it is never our conscious doing. In fact, the act of self-sabotage usually happens when we are close to success. The more clients I coach, the more I see the pattern, and the root cause stems from low self-worth.
The Winter Solstice will be unlike any other to date. Preparation for the long dark night will continue as tradition foretells, but this dark night comes with added weight. You are most likely feeling it already, as the rules of law and land in our society are turned upside down, wreaking havoc both nationally in the U.S., and internally. Life as we know it will continue to change; this, I can say with certainty. Astrological omens paint a clear picture, and if you are not a professional astrologer, you can still feel it. The rumble is real – you are not imagining things. The long dark night is upon us. Only time will tell how, when, and if we resurface.
“The 'American Dream' ... you have to be asleep to believe it.” G. Carlin
My clientele has increased over the past few months; I seem to be coaching more and more people. I was recently asked if I thought it had anything to do with a “wellness trend” expanding in the self-help world, and my response was no… it is because of Donald Trump. Ever since the shock of last year’s presidential election, we have all had to sit with grave uncertainty. Those who voted for Trump anxiously await the controversial changes he promised throughout his campaign, while those who did not vote for Trump anxiously await this country’s ruin – no matter your vote, genuine unease prevails over us all.
Last week, I challenged you to call out that spade, and to play your cards on the side of truth. That challenge still stands. We are entering choppy waters as we approach the end of 2017. The Universe will be encouraging us (or nagging, pressuring, and pushing, depending on how willing you are to heed its call) to hold steadfast in what is true regarding important actions that need to be taken. The planet Mercury links up to Saturn this week, a tough combination that grounds us in hard facts and reality. When Mercury turns retrograde next week, a period of reviews, reassessments, and continued conversations will ensue.
Last week, I gave an astrology reading to a client who was getting the shit kicked out of him in various areas of life. When we finished, I checked-in to see how he felt about his reading, and he responded that, “to be honest,” he was very disappointed. I asked why, and he replied that he was disheartened to learn the next six months would be much of the same difficulties he had been experiencing over the past year. I followed up; “well, now that you are aware of what is happening over these next few months, how might you react differently?” He said that he would continue to react the way he’s been reacting – by doing the best that he can.
"Above all, do not lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lies comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect, he ceases to love." ~Fyodor Dostoyevsky
We have officially entered my favorite time of year – Scorpio season – when night grows long, leaves change hues, and we prepare for the great submerge. Now is when we begin to take stock of our lives before entering a deep winter’s slumber. But to renew and replenish, we must first dig; we must investigate what lies beneath the surface of who we are, and rest up for the purge. As we prune, removing the many masks that we wear, we get to the roots of our souls. What roots have been badly damaged, and what roots can bring forth new growth, is for us to discern. And no matter our discernment, this is a process that requires both courage and truth.
I believe that our ability to truly love another, can be measured by our ability to love ourselves.
If I were to tell you that your ability to love another can be measured by your ability to love yourself, how would you rate your ability to love? Do you even agree with this statement? If not, what is your belief about love (comment below)? I ask, because "love" is a word we use to the point of trendy and slogan-y – Love conquers hate; Love means never having to say I’m sorry; All we need is Love – without much reverence for what the word means, exactly, or how it shows up in our everyday lives.