Last week brought many challenges. As I reflect on everything that occurred, I can still feel the weight of it all. I spent much of my time holding tension – tension within, and feeling tension in others. It was so dense that I literally had to leave town – LEAVE TOWN – to disconnect and get grounded. As I took the long drive north, the density grew lighter and lighter. I began to feel less heavy, which was great, but now a lingering question persists in my heart: when is it OK to expect more from others – to expect more from life?
In conversations about dismantling racism, we in the black community are often asked to be patient, reminded that change takes time. But when former police officer Jason Stockley is cleared of charges for the murder of Anthony Lamar Smith’s six years after his death, how can I be expected to remain patient? Why can’t the justice system change? The same is true when we talk about the leader of this country; why do I have to wait for our racist president to serve out his term, when he should not be holding that office in the first place? I realize that these things are much more complicated, and at the same time, they’re not at all. When is it OK to expect more from others – to expect more from life?
As I wrote in this blogpost, I may show compassion like a boss, but I will not make excuses for you. I will not make excuses for a corrupt system. I will not make excuses for racism. I will not make excuses for my clients. I will not make excuses for myself. I worry we have become too complacent. That we as individuals, and as a society, have settled. Because we have forgotten our worth and the abundance that is our birthright, we tolerate things more than we should. I wonder what would happen if we began to expect more from others – to expect more from life. Maybe then, we would be better people, living in a better world.
Check your horoscopes to see what’s in store this week ahead, and don’t forget to read for your Ascendant sign, too.