I often reflect on just how much of what I was taught about the world, and my place in it, was all a lie. That I would be married with children by a certain age, working in a steady career, making a good living and doing my duties as a contributing member of a "just" society, was all bullshit.
Truth is, I would prefer not to have to work at all. What’s more, only now – soon to be 40 in a couple of weeks – am I actually ready to start a family, and maybe I’ll get married someday. As for my career, it will most likely continue to shape-shift as has been my experience to date. And regarding my contribution to society, well, most days, it looks like me rebelling against it.
What scares me the most when I reflect on what I was taught about the world, and my place in it, are the many beliefs, stories and narratives that I accepted as true without question. I really did not know what I did not know, and as I continue the process of unlearning – a process that many people suddenly find themselves enmeshed in today after a year of hard knocks – it’s difficult to believe that I’ve lived much of my life so naïve.
Of course, it’s not entirely my fault. And if you can relate to what I'm saying, it’s not entirely your fault, either. The reason why I’m even sharing this is because of the number of sessions I’ve had in recent weeks with clients who were, understandably, upset that they had been duped throughout most of their lifespan. It’s all a farce!
That’s why I genuinely believe that unlearning is a necessary part of the human experience. But no one ever tells you this, nor how the relearning process – a process that insists you identify and begin to live by your own truth – can be really hard, and also really lonely.
Imagine being given a script about your entire life that you eventually found to be mostly make believe, and then feeling an urgent need to change, edit or revise said script (if not tossing it entirely) in ways that demanded you to see yourself as your most trustworthy frame of reference?
At once, you become the author, protagonist, antagonist and finally, the hero/heroine in your epic novel. It's daunting and overwhelming. But not nearly as disheartening as having to forget everything you thought you knew about the world, and your place in it.
That said, I invite you to forget everything you thought you knew. This invitation is meant to be welcoming, loving and liberating. Question what you thought was true. Question whether your beliefs even belong to you.
Sit with whatever is revealed and allow any new revelation to serve as a starting point for a life lived with greater intention. From there, mostly everything about your life will likely fall into place, as if you had known the truth about your life all along.
Check your horoscopes to see what’s in store for this week ahead, and don’t forget to read for your Ascendant sign too.
What scares me the most when I reflect on what I was taught about the world, and my place in it, are the many beliefs, stories and narratives that I accepted as true without question. I really did not know what I did not know, and as I continue the process of unlearning – a process that many people suddenly find themselves enmeshed in today after a year of hard knocks – it’s difficult to believe that I’ve lived much of my life so naïve.
Of course, it’s not entirely my fault. And if you can relate to what I'm saying, it’s not entirely your fault, either. The reason why I’m even sharing this is because of the number of sessions I’ve had in recent weeks with clients who were, understandably, upset that they had been duped throughout most of their lifespan. It’s all a farce!
That’s why I genuinely believe that unlearning is a necessary part of the human experience. But no one ever tells you this, nor how the relearning process – a process that insists you identify and begin to live by your own truth – can be really hard, and also really lonely.
Imagine being given a script about your entire life that you eventually found to be mostly make believe, and then feeling an urgent need to change, edit or revise said script (if not tossing it entirely) in ways that demanded you to see yourself as your most trustworthy frame of reference?
At once, you become the author, protagonist, antagonist and finally, the hero/heroine in your epic novel. It's daunting and overwhelming. But not nearly as disheartening as having to forget everything you thought you knew about the world, and your place in it.
That said, I invite you to forget everything you thought you knew. This invitation is meant to be welcoming, loving and liberating. Question what you thought was true. Question whether your beliefs even belong to you.
Sit with whatever is revealed and allow any new revelation to serve as a starting point for a life lived with greater intention. From there, mostly everything about your life will likely fall into place, as if you had known the truth about your life all along.
Check your horoscopes to see what’s in store for this week ahead, and don’t forget to read for your Ascendant sign too.
