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In Love's Arena

4/24/2016

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And just like that, he was awestruck by the divine feminine creature that kept his beautiful gaze, and knew the loving depths of his Soul.  
 
A few years ago, a Libra said to me, “I think you are a great person, but…” A few months ago, a Leo said to me, “I feel the need to be close to you, but…” A couple of days ago, a Sagittarius said to me, “I want to be in a relationship, but…” And as I write this blog, I am just about ready to write off men, but…
I should state for the record that the Libra, Leo, and Sagittarius were good men with wounds that reinforced fears around trust and vulnerability (fears that are familiar to us all). Our wounds brought us together, and the common denominator in each exchange was yours truly. But…there was a significant difference: I was the one willing to enter love’s arena.
 
When I hear the excuse “I care for you, ‘but,’” I feel like a creepster for my deep desire to merge. What’s ironic, however, is that these experiences resolve Karma; I become more empowered with every “but” by realizing that it is not my doing, it is their choice, and I will be OK. My friend Blue said it best: “wounded masculinity affects us women too.” Not only must we show sensitivity to the wounded man (because that is what divine feminine creatures do), we must often forgo love because of a “but.”
 
“Rejection. Fucking. Sucks.” says this Leo with an 8th House Moon. Poetic justice is served, however, when you can recognize a shared scar, and accept someone where they are. I have learned how not to block love with each block to love. It is a lesson that reassures through calm and patience for the man who will meet me in love’s arena. And when he does, it will be epic. We will both be scared as hell as we reveal past hurts, begrudgingly. Still, we will learn to trust. We will apply a soothing balm to each other’s wounds. We will heal together, and we will love - no “but.”
 

Check your horoscopes to see what’s in store this week ahead, and don’t forget to read for your Ascendant sign. 
20 Comments
Shirly
4/25/2016 07:30:22 am

Quite simply.....Thanks. I needed that !!!

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Tracey link
4/25/2016 12:03:22 pm

Hi Shrily - you're very welcome!

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monique
4/25/2016 02:58:02 pm

I needed to hear this too.

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Olivia
4/25/2016 07:36:28 am

While it hurts to hear every "but" it's actually actually a gift. For all their fears and foibles these men are telling you they can't be your match. This is saving you A LOT OF TEARS and big blisters from banging your head on a stone wall

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Tracy
4/25/2016 10:50:51 am

The truth in your words Olivia!! I wish I knew he had those issues before things got to deep. Love this post.

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Tracey
4/25/2016 12:03:47 pm

Thanks Tracy and Olivia!!

Tracey link
4/25/2016 12:05:32 pm

"Saving you a lot of big blisters from banging your head on a stone wall" - yes!! It's freeing to not continue to go back and forth with someone who loves you, but. Hurtful, yes. But freeing, for sure! Thanks for your comment Olivia :-)

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Adrienne link
4/25/2016 07:39:32 am

I do believe this was for me today. The last couple of weeks I have been thinking that something was wrong with me because of so many "buts" from men and why we are not together. I also get the great woman speech about how wonderful I am and how any man would be lucky to have me. LOL. But as you said, it makes me stronger and know that since that door is closed, it is preparing me for that next door to open and maybe, just maybe the one for me is behind it. I love your blog and live by your horoscopes weekly. Thank you for all you do.

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Tracey
4/25/2016 12:06:42 pm

Thanks Adrienne! I'm so glad this post resonates. You know the saying - one door closes, another opens. We have to believe that all of this is leading us to the one who will step inside the arena of love. GL :-)

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Vet
4/25/2016 07:46:12 am

Oh my!!! I have been told this by a man I've loved in every way my heart allowed & didn't know it would allow!! Actually, he would say that to me for years to most recent, even when I had not asked for such explanation. Long before now, I accepted his ".....but" !
Thank you for the reassurance of my concluded thought..and, to add that evidently he hadn't accepted HIS "....but" choice.
Keep smiling! !

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Tracey
4/25/2016 12:07:14 pm

I will keep smiling, Vet! Thank you for your comment :-)

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Nat
4/25/2016 08:43:01 am

This actually brought tears to my eyes. For your hurts and for mine (damn you Scorpio Full Moon!!!!). Thank you for your vulnerability to share your soft, gooey inards that we can all be inspired.
REJECTION.FUCKING.SUCKS.DONKEY.BALLS

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Tracey
4/25/2016 12:07:36 pm

Thanks Nat - #donkeyballs :-) xoxo

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Debbie
4/25/2016 09:21:36 am

As we leave a relationship, romantic, business or friendship, etc., we have the opportunity to perform a "autopsy" of what went right, what went wrong or "I could have handled that differently" moments. These are teachable moments that allow us to learn and grow and celebrate. Each of these types of moments, though painful, help us prepare for the relationship that we want and deserve. We don't realize how much we have changed since entering into the relationship - so we emerge a different person than we began. As we move into the next relationship and take steps to go further than the last, we can use our "teachable moments" to remind us that we have a choice, repeat the past or take this opportunity to change the path. You are right, each of us deserve a love without a "but..."

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Nat
4/25/2016 09:37:45 am

Debbie -
I appreciate your perspective and would agree. It is when those evolutions are "worse for wear", that I get concerned.

Awaiting that love without a "but".... Thank you.

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Tracey
4/25/2016 12:09:04 pm

Hi Debbie, you're right! These are teachable moments. I realize that I have to make myself vulnerable in love - it is the only way to receive love, without the "but!" I am ALWAYS a willing participant in the dance of love :-) xoxo

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Astrid
4/25/2016 12:00:22 pm

Omg Tracy, your words match exactly what I'm going through right now with an Aries man. Thank you so much for these wonderful thoughts!

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Tracey
4/25/2016 12:09:32 pm

Thanks Astrid, and good luck with your Aries! I'm glad this post resonates :-)

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Teshia
4/25/2016 05:28:12 pm

Mercy, mercy, mercy me!!!! THANK YOU!

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Andrea
4/26/2016 12:01:03 pm

This was amazing Tracey!!! Give me hope to keep pushing along and take these lessons for what they are!!! Thank you for sharing!!!

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